tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post5740348882070175880..comments2023-11-02T06:57:11.400-04:00Comments on BookEnds Literary Agency: Setting BoundariesBookEnds, A Literary Agencyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06287278822065839469noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-81153995224982033132015-02-14T19:27:45.873-05:002015-02-14T19:27:45.873-05:00Ugh. Boundaries are so hard when you have guilt ab...Ugh. Boundaries are so hard when you have guilt about setting them! My job takes an awfully large block of my time, so throw in time for the family and there isn't much time left. I know it isn't necessarily the right thing to think, but I do quietly long for the day that I earn a small dollar from writing so I can call it 'work'.AJ Blythehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04529233142099749005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-7166319227759597602015-02-13T14:01:55.417-05:002015-02-13T14:01:55.417-05:00Easier said than done! I'm a dependent in a ho...Easier said than done! I'm a dependent in a household with a special needs child and an irrational guardian, and often on my "days off" I get stressed out when said child acts out and I'm expected to help, like today. I'm only writing today because I am just so angry that this has been happening more often, the block and these episodes. How do you set boundaries when you're not the one in power, and when the one who is in power will burst into tears and make you feel guilty for setting boundaries and everyone else tells you to be there and be present?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15786475206547123446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-46350095027859959822015-02-11T18:10:56.619-05:002015-02-11T18:10:56.619-05:00Great points.
I'm trying to do this, but it...Great points.<br />I'm trying to do this, but it's an ongoing struggle. <br />What has helped me is about 8 months ago we moved into a new house and I have "a writing room" - not an office, and it even gets called "mum's writing room." Unfortunately, darn thing doesn't have a door, but it's a start.<br />I'm definitely doing more writing this year than last in my own space.lily malonehttp://www.lilymalone.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-46158678221654027512015-02-11T14:59:21.053-05:002015-02-11T14:59:21.053-05:00Because I'm also an artist, I had to set bound...Because I'm also an artist, I had to set boundaries a long time ago. People would still begin sentences with, "Since you don't work..."<br /><br />One of the biggest frustrations with working in the arts, whether as a writer, artist, musician, etc., is if it's not your primary source of income (and sometimes even if it is), your artistic endeavors "don't count" to most people. Therefor you must have plenty of time on your hands to do all the things they don't want to do (volunteer-wise) or the things they do want to do (go to lunch, play golf, etc.).<br /><br />Anyone who works from home must learn to say one word: "No."Elissa Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10727748060605823895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-89655029591642178272015-02-11T11:46:03.928-05:002015-02-11T11:46:03.928-05:00I have always had an office but I am most comforta...I have always had an office but I am most comfortable writing at my kitchen table. <br />Early on, twenty-five years ago, I taught myself to write in the middle of mayhem. Blocking out barking dogs and battling children, a husband who can’t find his shoes, all of it, became a kind of theme-song to what I write. (Most of my writing has been about us.)<br />I’m a columnist with a deadline so I’ve trained myself to write in spurts, sometime minutes at a time, when things go really haywire. <br />But right now, the kids are gone and I am able to devote a lot of time to word count, (am querying a memoir), and I like that, but sometimes I do miss the maelstrom. <br />Ah, well, not really.<br />My office, it’s nice, has a lot of my newspaper columns framed and hanging on the walls, (the kids did that for me two Christmases ago), maybe I’ll go dust off my desk and check out the view from the windows. <br />And then again maybe I'll just sit here at my kitchen table and write.Carolynnwith2Nshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394998702410764388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-17821694888676136962015-02-11T10:06:38.692-05:002015-02-11T10:06:38.692-05:00Absolutely true. When my kids were little, my husb...Absolutely true. When my kids were little, my husband took care of them during my writing time. And I ignored the little fingers that wiggled under the door. But when I wasn't writing, I was very present with them.<br /><br />When the kids get older, it's a bit more flexible. Your writing time can become their movie time. (If they fight, off goes the movie.) Pretty soon you'll hear, "Uh, mom, don't you need to write?" :)Connie Kellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774616533630985219noreply@blogger.com