tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post7300161486926925379..comments2023-11-02T06:57:11.400-04:00Comments on BookEnds Literary Agency: Sucked into NegativityBookEnds, A Literary Agencyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06287278822065839469noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-41302053491012429932011-09-26T17:02:27.212-04:002011-09-26T17:02:27.212-04:00Each time I come across particularly negative peop...Each time I come across particularly negative people, I consider the encounters opportunities to get more grounded in my optimism. There is a lot of fear going around these days. Hope and trust in where I choose to live. That said, I think I would need a warm shower or a good dose of nature after a meeting like the one you attended. Or wine. It's all good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-12548357744784844412011-09-26T08:18:27.118-04:002011-09-26T08:18:27.118-04:00Mmmmm…, anon, you use big important words and conc...Mmmmm…, anon, you use big important words and concepts, I ’m impressed. And your cliché…I love clichés because they are so trite.<br /> I was actually playing off anon 206, who was commenting about anon 1033. <br />Hey, I equate obsessive negativity with people being miserable. Am I right, am I wrong? Am I realistic? Hell no… is probably what I am, but what I’m not is negative, most of the time. <br />Bitter doesn’t taste good.Carolynnwith2Nshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394998702410764388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-70042620531839041282011-09-26T07:36:18.209-04:002011-09-26T07:36:18.209-04:00Or maybe they are right...
Or venting. A bitch s...Or maybe they are right... <br /><br />Or venting. A bitch session. Maybe you should have re-directed the conversation and inserted some of your positive energy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-68696204983151963592011-09-25T22:35:18.123-04:002011-09-25T22:35:18.123-04:00OPD: Other people's drama. Never let it suck y...OPD: Other people's drama. Never let it suck you in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-73584002030933987112011-09-25T21:41:55.258-04:002011-09-25T21:41:55.258-04:00Wry Writer, I think your desperately non sequitur ...Wry Writer, I think your desperately non sequitur response does more than you realize to bolster my contention that obsessively positive people are irrational. I never said that I was unhappy or miserable (I'm quite happy without denying the negative aspects of reality) so your reply is completely out of synch with the facts.<br /><br />Or, as the Bard put it: "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."<br /><br />In my experience, positive-thinking ideology is a symptom of fear, fragility, and avoidance of reality more than any genuine positivity about the world. It's a form of denial, a defense mechanism that relies on a willing avoidance of reality. <br /><br />Strong, mature people somehow manage to express and absorb negative facts and negative interpretations of facts without lashing out the way you have, and without withdrawing like a child pulling the covers over his head. And, despite what you seem to believe, without it making them miserable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-16454449549659164452011-09-25T20:25:19.318-04:002011-09-25T20:25:19.318-04:00Anon, 1033.
If you are unhappy and miserable...it...Anon, 1033.<br /><br />If you are unhappy and miserable...it is because you want to be. <br />Negative...because you want to be negative.<br /><br />I'm not irrational, or a pollyanna, I'm a writer who can't spell for shit and I've been published over 60 times. <br />I'm a woman who was once bathed in loneliness and am now married with two wonderful children and an unbelieveable husband.<br /><br />Unless you are typing with a mouth-stick you've got nothing to bitch about.Carolynnwith2Nshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394998702410764388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-56738419604623984972011-09-25T15:10:08.792-04:002011-09-25T15:10:08.792-04:00I know exactly what you mean. When I tell people I...I know exactly what you mean. When I tell people I write for magazines, they love to tell me "Magazines are dead." First of all, thanks for the encouragement. Second of all, why is it that I find more work and more pay year after year?Kelly Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01752857506190488860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-75083951504726057282011-09-25T14:54:58.658-04:002011-09-25T14:54:58.658-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Carolynnwith2Nshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394998702410764388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-27650459692906007532011-09-25T14:06:42.761-04:002011-09-25T14:06:42.761-04:00Anonymous 1033, are you depressed? I would certain...Anonymous 1033, are you depressed? I would certainly be if I held your worldview, or spent any time with people like you in real life. <br /><br />I don't see how that's productive. In order to solve legitimate problems, you have to believe it's possible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-24883231169400648362011-09-25T10:33:09.111-04:002011-09-25T10:33:09.111-04:00The real world is not about attitude, it's abo...The real world is not about attitude, it's about facts. Attitudes are merely our interpretation, which can be correct or incorrect. What matters is not whether someone's "negativity" makes you feel bad, but whether it's grounded in reality. <br /><br />If it's not grounded in reality, the solution is to counter their bad information, not to avoid the issue. <br /><br />If it is grounded in reality, the solution is to search for solutions, not to avoid the problem. Denial is not a solution.<br /><br />In either case, hiding from things you don't enjoy is not the mature, professional way to react.<br /><br />And, apologies to the commenters who are trying to be "supportive" (it's really enabling behavior), but people who are looking for positivity without regard to the reality of the situation are in fact irrational pollyannas, and usually cause things to get worse, not better, over the long term. <br /><br />The real self-defeating strategy is not "being negative" but disregarding the way things really are whether that means undue negativity or undue positivity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-77007626373872582682011-09-25T00:24:16.238-04:002011-09-25T00:24:16.238-04:00Books going digital and the selfpublishing boom ar...Books going digital and the selfpublishing boom are not doom and gloom. It's great for the writers! Everyone needs to stop thinking in <i>atoms</i> and start thinking in <i>bits</i>. The music industry did, and hopefully the publishing industry will do the same. Sooner rather than later...JPKhttp://jpkurzitza.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-42849855140195827412011-09-24T22:03:30.025-04:002011-09-24T22:03:30.025-04:00But what is the human weakness that allows us to b...But what is the human weakness that allows us to be affected by such negativity? I always feel so weak and assaulted after I am through talking myself back up.Virginia Llorcahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08354795459855491623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-70039061539939600512011-09-24T17:38:24.374-04:002011-09-24T17:38:24.374-04:00This. I'm an eternal optimist and it drives me...This. I'm an eternal optimist and it drives me crazy when i stumble upon people who are down on things. I try to stay away from themSarah Ahiershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02795455714801965956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-80065162497011146872011-09-24T10:21:20.598-04:002011-09-24T10:21:20.598-04:00Totally agree. No room in my life for negativity.Totally agree. No room in my life for negativity.Donna Shieldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04607270459657152401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-38937309998093866032011-09-24T01:56:23.997-04:002011-09-24T01:56:23.997-04:00I like that you walked out of the meeting. I rais...I like that you walked out of the meeting. I raise my glass to you.<br /><br />Positivity is contagious. <br /><br />Back in high school I decided that my life was a book I was writing and editing. I decided to edit out all the things that were boring. Negative people, the true vampires, were the top of the list.angie Brooksby-Arcangiolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08000615140577512304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-34637463978288792702011-09-23T19:54:49.230-04:002011-09-23T19:54:49.230-04:00Ms. Trite feels very serious about this subject.
S...Ms. Trite feels very serious about this subject.<br />She does not like negative people.<br /><br />There are two parts to the glass, only;the glass itself and what’s in it. <br />(The empty part is nothing, it really doesn’t matter how you look at it because its 'matter' is zero.)<br /><br />If your mouth is dry, the glass is half full, if you're drunk, it's half empty...again.<br /><br />Ms. Trite is feeling a little negative right now, perhaps it is because her glass is totally empty...so is her bottle.Carolynnwith2Nshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18394998702410764388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-35708935526334933642011-09-23T17:11:04.891-04:002011-09-23T17:11:04.891-04:00Amen.Amen.Gina Blackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09100701844882701469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-55564762352114418592011-09-23T16:58:47.559-04:002011-09-23T16:58:47.559-04:00It's always a bit sad to me that sometimes peo...It's always a bit sad to me that sometimes people are so much in need of some feeling, any feeling, in their lives that the negative seems a good place to be and even better, it gets them attention, albeit by people with a negative bent. <br />Pulling myself out of the situation by the scruff works too, but I've found it's best just to stay clear and BREATHE! (And spend time with some of the lovely and positive people I've met through RWNZ!)<br />Thanks for your great blog, Jessica. I've been subscribing for only a few days but it's become a highlight of opening my emails. I Look forward to it daily. Yes, the glass is definitely half full.. If you tip it on its side, you can even believe it's 3/4 full!<br />Have a great day,<br />LizziAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-27847779070924157532011-09-23T16:26:42.597-04:002011-09-23T16:26:42.597-04:00So when I get worried, I try to objectively write ...So when I get worried, I try to objectively write down, or at least think of, the basic facts. They help you focus on the right stuff....<br /><br />With respect to the industry...<br /><br />As a reader:<br />* I like to read.<br />* I will buy reading material.<br />* I want to read quality material.<br /><br />I don't think any of that's gotta change, so all you really need to do is get quality reading material in front of me, and I'll give you money.<br /><br />I think if you focus on doing that, regardless of how it's done, you'll be ok.Roxanne Skellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16247960958291876302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-84270916043831732472011-09-23T15:32:01.042-04:002011-09-23T15:32:01.042-04:00This is why it's good to have a support group....This is why it's good to have a support group. Sometimes we need to temper reality with a dose of hope--and this is especially true for those of us trying to break into the industry. Even if it's just your friends and family, keep people around who can inject some optimism!Kristin Laughtinhttp://kristinlaughtin.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-73672539777782761752011-09-23T15:27:07.192-04:002011-09-23T15:27:07.192-04:00You're absolutely right! It's so easy to g...You're absolutely right! It's so easy to get sucked into negativity around us. Wonderful that you see the bright side!<br /><br />http://lilliemcferrin.blogspot.comLillie McFerrinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05367116687588265202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-81482208714803577052011-09-23T15:05:15.428-04:002011-09-23T15:05:15.428-04:00I suppose nothing stays the same forever. We just ...I suppose nothing stays the same forever. We just have to learn to change with it. Negativity is infectious; so be proud of yourself that you chose to rise above it and be who you are. Look back on it, and be thankful that you're not the one bogged down by fear and pessimism. Yuck!<br /><br />I can’t stand it when I have a bad day because of someone else’s attitude. I couldn’t imagine carrying around what they do every day! <br /><br />Cheers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-83240225215820725442011-09-23T15:00:11.374-04:002011-09-23T15:00:11.374-04:00Negativity doesn't help anybody, but neither d...Negativity doesn't help anybody, but neither does irrational exuberance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-1803217154221286692011-09-23T13:35:14.864-04:002011-09-23T13:35:14.864-04:00It is unfortunate that the people you sat with fea...It is unfortunate that the people you sat with fear change instead of coming up with ways to evolve and prosper.SBJoneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10457239074744509487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23051453.post-48845829152954820552011-09-23T13:12:21.913-04:002011-09-23T13:12:21.913-04:00Maybe the industry is in peril, I don't know b...Maybe the industry is in peril, I don't know but I doubt any bestselling authors thought so when they were struggling to finish their manuscripts. Success in any profession takes hope, talent and tenacity. The lack of which certainly will result in failure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com